yo first comment. very great post, i appreciate it. i don't really know why my urges are still so strong that i cant even get past 10 days after 1 year of trying nofap? i'm 16 and i'll be honest i dont do anything besides go to school and come home but im not able to do any sports or pretty much anything else for that matter. urges usually happen after 4 - 5 days and i cant fight back but this time i went a single day before failing. shit is hopeless so what would you say i should do?
thanks for the courgae bro, you got this! i am a teen still and was in school too when i started, therefore i understand your situation.
it is important to understand that you cannot have success, meaning making it longer than a few days, without a fundament + mindset. the latter does not seem to be your problem, as you found and read this article, commented and really want to quit. by fundamentals i mean making relapsing as hard and unrewarding as possible. install a porn blocker (blockerhero e.g), define a reason why you want to quit and occupy yourself to avoid triggers. starting some sports probably helps you with avoiding triggers, besides the ton of other benefits sports bring with them. if you want to learn about other potentially helpful tricks just brwse some of the articles, you will find it!
go and implement these steps right now, set a realistic yet hard goal (~8-11 days for you) and simultanesouly track the moments you get triggerd to avoid these in future
i've been using and paying for blockerhero for a couple of months now, its pretty good but when the urges are at an all-time high i find myself typing in the words and unlocking the blocker leading to a spiral. i've been pretty active on nofap forums so i would say i have a decent mindset(i guess?), i mean i used to scroll r/nofap before i gave up reddit, speaking of social media i deleted tiktok and twitter a very long time ago, and got rid of instagram recently, all i use is youtube and thats only on my computer with a bunch of extensions (like rys and unhook) so its not really social media either. i think its mindset i lack man, for context i was on day 9 a couple days ago and my best is day 10, so i kept telling myself to get through today and tomorrow and you'll feel great, but i blocked that out of my mind for a quick dopamine hit. i've been finding myself extremely disinterested during relapses to the point where i think about cutting relapses short like right after i start but that doesn't really matter to me because i still start a relapse, even if i want to quit during it. i dunno man, right now my goal is 9 days and that's pretty hard for me but i'll try, also thanks again for the response and this entire nofap navigator page is extremely useful and i very much enjoy reading these articles. :)
well seems like you are ahead of most people in many respects. not only do you recognize (first step) that you have a problem with porn but you also are tackeling it (second step) so success really is inevitable and would mark step three. in addition to that you are basically free of social media with little exeptions which is pretty close to where i am and way better than the rest of our generation.
i never paid for blockerhero, just setting the team as your accountability partner was enough for me, so i was not able to remove the block even when i wanted (later found a loophole but it took time), so maybe try that - although i am not familiar with the premium version of blockerhero. another thing i recommend coming to blocking porn is installing more than one app. at peak, i had half a dozen different blockers so it took ages for me to reset them manually. during that i often times questioned myself or turned my phone off entirely to protect myself from relapsing.
your mindset in terms of having the ambition to quit is strong as far as i can tell, but you need to differentiate between wanting something and being ready to go trough hell in order to achieve that thing! everbody wants to have abs and many people even inform themselves on training methods, some even buy equipment but only a few people acutally push trough for long enough to acutally get abs. this is the first random example that came into my mind but you can say the same for millionaires or anything else that is desired but requires time and effort. in short - your mindset is fine, but willpower is lacking.
unfortunately i have not really thought about how to tackle this (maybe common) problem as i luckily never faced it. my advice still would be finding and defining (piece of paper) your why? as this really boosts your willpower momentarily.
and thank you mate for the positivve feedback! i cannot tell you how greatful i am for this, especially scince i am lacking behind with work on the newsletter as i am busy with uni. there will be an article this saturday, i promise hahah!
yo first comment. very great post, i appreciate it. i don't really know why my urges are still so strong that i cant even get past 10 days after 1 year of trying nofap? i'm 16 and i'll be honest i dont do anything besides go to school and come home but im not able to do any sports or pretty much anything else for that matter. urges usually happen after 4 - 5 days and i cant fight back but this time i went a single day before failing. shit is hopeless so what would you say i should do?
thanks for the courgae bro, you got this! i am a teen still and was in school too when i started, therefore i understand your situation.
it is important to understand that you cannot have success, meaning making it longer than a few days, without a fundament + mindset. the latter does not seem to be your problem, as you found and read this article, commented and really want to quit. by fundamentals i mean making relapsing as hard and unrewarding as possible. install a porn blocker (blockerhero e.g), define a reason why you want to quit and occupy yourself to avoid triggers. starting some sports probably helps you with avoiding triggers, besides the ton of other benefits sports bring with them. if you want to learn about other potentially helpful tricks just brwse some of the articles, you will find it!
go and implement these steps right now, set a realistic yet hard goal (~8-11 days for you) and simultanesouly track the moments you get triggerd to avoid these in future
thanks for the response
i've been using and paying for blockerhero for a couple of months now, its pretty good but when the urges are at an all-time high i find myself typing in the words and unlocking the blocker leading to a spiral. i've been pretty active on nofap forums so i would say i have a decent mindset(i guess?), i mean i used to scroll r/nofap before i gave up reddit, speaking of social media i deleted tiktok and twitter a very long time ago, and got rid of instagram recently, all i use is youtube and thats only on my computer with a bunch of extensions (like rys and unhook) so its not really social media either. i think its mindset i lack man, for context i was on day 9 a couple days ago and my best is day 10, so i kept telling myself to get through today and tomorrow and you'll feel great, but i blocked that out of my mind for a quick dopamine hit. i've been finding myself extremely disinterested during relapses to the point where i think about cutting relapses short like right after i start but that doesn't really matter to me because i still start a relapse, even if i want to quit during it. i dunno man, right now my goal is 9 days and that's pretty hard for me but i'll try, also thanks again for the response and this entire nofap navigator page is extremely useful and i very much enjoy reading these articles. :)
well seems like you are ahead of most people in many respects. not only do you recognize (first step) that you have a problem with porn but you also are tackeling it (second step) so success really is inevitable and would mark step three. in addition to that you are basically free of social media with little exeptions which is pretty close to where i am and way better than the rest of our generation.
i never paid for blockerhero, just setting the team as your accountability partner was enough for me, so i was not able to remove the block even when i wanted (later found a loophole but it took time), so maybe try that - although i am not familiar with the premium version of blockerhero. another thing i recommend coming to blocking porn is installing more than one app. at peak, i had half a dozen different blockers so it took ages for me to reset them manually. during that i often times questioned myself or turned my phone off entirely to protect myself from relapsing.
your mindset in terms of having the ambition to quit is strong as far as i can tell, but you need to differentiate between wanting something and being ready to go trough hell in order to achieve that thing! everbody wants to have abs and many people even inform themselves on training methods, some even buy equipment but only a few people acutally push trough for long enough to acutally get abs. this is the first random example that came into my mind but you can say the same for millionaires or anything else that is desired but requires time and effort. in short - your mindset is fine, but willpower is lacking.
unfortunately i have not really thought about how to tackle this (maybe common) problem as i luckily never faced it. my advice still would be finding and defining (piece of paper) your why? as this really boosts your willpower momentarily.
and thank you mate for the positivve feedback! i cannot tell you how greatful i am for this, especially scince i am lacking behind with work on the newsletter as i am busy with uni. there will be an article this saturday, i promise hahah!